Now that the custody case is over, I am §¡n†å× again.

nice name, especially the crazy S, and i like ur avatar

Cool. Learner, what all happened? How did it go?

Good, now I can call you Spanky when you're being a retard, and it might actually be somewhat insulting...and stuff and junk.

OH I LUB J00 SYNTAX/LEARNER/SPANKY!!!!

What happened?

Well I took some time off and sat in the court room. I watch a few cases like mine that went before the same judge. He sided with the mom everytime. One father has evidence his wife had a heroin addiction, to the point she had been arrested several times for possesion, prostitution, and dis-orderly conduct. He was an upstanding citzen with no record, took his own piss test to prove he was clean, she refused one. He wanted full custody, she wanted 50/50.

Last minute she changed her case to request full custody. The father had had the children the whole year after she left. She got it all. The house, the kids, and back child support for the time he had the kids.

Every case this judge gave it all to the mom. If she asked for it, she got it. I decided I had no chance in the cort room. My best shot was to agree to 50/50. Build my life up, start over and give Gloria as much love and structure I can while I have her.

She will go to shcool in my county. This is a plus as my county has better schools. I am hoping to have her in private school anyway though. After I agreed to 50/50 the ex agreed to not go for child support. Though I think by guide lines I would owe $5.00 or she would owe me depending on how you add it up. I make double what she dose, however I pay almost $500 a month in child care, I am saving for her collage and a few other things that balanced it out.

I was doing all this before child support was ever an issue. The ex seems to has settled down a bit now. She has a some what decent job(lets see if she keeps it(hasn't kept one for more than a year since 1998)). Gloria dosen't talk about carzy things after coming back from mommas like she did for a while.

I hate these "old school" judges, they mother doesn't always deserve the children man, the father has just as much a right to them as the mother; if the mother can't provide for the child and the father would be best, then by all means...

When my parents started their divorce when I was 6/7 years old they got an "old school" judge. My parents had agreed that my dad should get 100% coustody of me and my older brother.

He had a stable job and the house we lived in belonged to my dad's father so there was no way my mom could get the house. My mom was living in the one room basement of one of her friends. The judge actually had the nerve to tell my parents that he would refuse to give full custody of us kids to my dad and that my mom had to take us, even though Connecticut state laws says siblings of the opposite sex over the age of I think it's 5 can not share a room.

The judge wanted me my brother and my mom to share one room and one bed! Took almost a month to convince the judge that we not a possibility.

When the judge finally caved in he gave my mom only 1 day a month to see us kids. His way of saying telling my parents to [censored] off. Took 2 years to get a new jodge so they could get joint custody of us. I [censored] hate judges.

My parents finally got their divorce finished this summer, it went on for just under three years. My dad spent over $45,000 in legal fees alone during that time. In case anyone's curious, he's not rich - it's damn near wiped him out.

I am up to $8,000 in Lawyer fees alone after less than a year. This dose not count court costs, pschy eval, drug testing, days off work and the like. Now that custody is done I can look forward to divorce. Yep, not divorced yet. Maryland is jacked up. Have to be seperated 1 year, no sex with the other partner for 1 year.

The way it is set up it tears any shred of the family apart. It is set up to creat conflict. As far as I can tell, the only one walking away happy are the lawyers. My lawyer and hers golf together. It is [censored] up I tell you.

Perg: I bet you that he wishes he was still married to her now huh ...

Lol, no sex with her for one year? Somehow I think that if you dispise someone you won't sleep with them, but then again if she has a nice [censored] just throw a paper bag on both of ya and then draw a face, then it's not really her

Well as many people who have been up in there... Not really an problem with me not wanting it. She seriously got around. Kinda sad really. 13 affairs in her first marriage, 6 (I know of) in ours. Plus she was a ho before marriage. All you have to do is smile at her and say, you know I like you. That is it, legs spread. And guess who married her. This jack [censored] right here. /me shruggs.

At least I had some fun with her. I will offer anyone who cares to listen this peice of advise. When in a relationship, do not talk to members of the opposite sex about your relationship issues unless you want to cheat. It almost allways leads to that. Many know that, some do not.

Not to get off the subject, but ummm...have you been tested for STD's and stuff? ....

yes I have. I am clean. That was not a fun day.

ok, good to know.

Yeh, they shove a Q tip in Mr. Happy

holy [censored], really?

....owww....

yes really, i mean i heard from a friend, i mean...yeah really.

For women they shove a metal thing up your pussy and they dont even warm it up first....

Anyways!

:p

Yeah, get used to that "metal thing" Icey, you'll be seeing it a lot now that you're pregnant, and that's not even the worse thing they're gonna shove up there. Wait til the doctor/nurse shoves his/her fist up there to see how far dilated/effaced you are in the middle of a contraction, that's really fun.

Yea, q-tip not cool, had blood drawn, and all that crap. Bad day.